Will figure this out?
One day I was having coffee with my friend, talking about everything in general and the guy she had a crush on in particular ;)
“I don’t mind if he flirts with other girls.”
“Then?”
“I’d have a problem if is close to another girl.”
“Close as in Close friend?”
“Yep, I’d have a problem with that. Any girl will have a problem with that”
“You gotta be kidding me”
I know more than a couple of girls whom I consider very close friends, INCLUDING the one I was talking to! So I set out to prove that she was just an exception. After all why would a girl have a problem with the guy having a close female friend, when she knows that they are just friends, but not have problems with him flirting with other girls?
I went to other friend
“Imagine you are my gf, I have another female friend whom I am close to, and I flirt with other girls. Who would you consider to be a threat to you?”
“It would be Your Close friend”
DAMN!! These girls think alike .I need to find someone else to ask this to, so I find another one.
“Imagine you are my gf, I have another female friend whom I am close to, and then there is this Real HOT Chick whom I am flirting with. Who would you consider a threat to you?”
“This is a tough one, but I’d be more concerned about the friend”
“WAT??? What about the hot chick? Why don’t you ask a few of your friends who ACTUALLY have a boyfriend and tell me”
This cant be happening!! How could I be 3-0 down?? There must be at least who think other wise.
She messages after sometime
“I asked a couple of them and they all said the same thing”
I gave up.
Next day I asked my roomie
“Dai, Imagine you are my gf, I have this HOT female friend, my Very Close friend, and there is this ok looking girl that I am flirting with. Who would you consider a threat to you?”
“HAH, I know the answer to this!
It is the Chick you are flirting with.”
Give it up buddy. We’ll never understand them!
“I don’t mind if he flirts with other girls.”
“Then?”
“I’d have a problem if is close to another girl.”
“Close as in Close friend?”
“Yep, I’d have a problem with that. Any girl will have a problem with that”
“You gotta be kidding me”
I know more than a couple of girls whom I consider very close friends, INCLUDING the one I was talking to! So I set out to prove that she was just an exception. After all why would a girl have a problem with the guy having a close female friend, when she knows that they are just friends, but not have problems with him flirting with other girls?
I went to other friend
“Imagine you are my gf, I have another female friend whom I am close to, and I flirt with other girls. Who would you consider to be a threat to you?”
“It would be Your Close friend”
DAMN!! These girls think alike .I need to find someone else to ask this to, so I find another one.
“Imagine you are my gf, I have another female friend whom I am close to, and then there is this Real HOT Chick whom I am flirting with. Who would you consider a threat to you?”
“This is a tough one, but I’d be more concerned about the friend”
“WAT??? What about the hot chick? Why don’t you ask a few of your friends who ACTUALLY have a boyfriend and tell me”
This cant be happening!! How could I be 3-0 down?? There must be at least who think other wise.
She messages after sometime
“I asked a couple of them and they all said the same thing”
I gave up.
Next day I asked my roomie
“Dai, Imagine you are my gf, I have this HOT female friend, my Very Close friend, and there is this ok looking girl that I am flirting with. Who would you consider a threat to you?”
“HAH, I know the answer to this!
It is the Chick you are flirting with.”
Give it up buddy. We’ll never understand them!
posted by Varkey at 9:35 PM
26 Comments:
And you think that guys are easy to understand... :P
It's all about a feeling of insecurity... See why should the guy have another "close" friend, when I am his GF... A girl expects her guy to be "close" with her... And not with some other girl...
Do u get it???
what if he was friends with the girl even before he met u?
you dont expect him to leave his friends do u?
But a girl (GF) doesn't expect u to be closer to the old friend as u were before... Don't dump the friend, but dont be as close.. otherwise what is the need for a GF?? (don't tell me just for physical stuff!!! )
Insecurity... girls are very very insecure... That is a default setting....
You of all ppl telling me this :) remember your angel?
That was an exceptional case... One of it's kinds...
aint you forgetting something....
Ur the friend in this case :) not the girlfriend
.... Its a long story... :) So lets not get into it...
Forget the story :)
you girls are too complicated. I have given up all hopes of ever being able to understand girls !!
That's why I like u :) You give up so easily... :D
PS: Shall narate the long story some time later ;)
PS: Shall narate the long story some time later ;)
ya i'm sure abt that, but who has the TIME
With Varkey anyday on this!
Hey Varkey thanks for dropping by my blog :)
lol this was an interesting post...u going ard and asking the same Q from girls..hehehe...trust me, girls r too hard to u'stand ;-)
well if u asked me that Q, I'd say I wouldnt be considering any of the 2 a threat...only cos I dun believe a r'ship is based on suspecting and feeling insecure...that's the biggest mistake most girls do :) If my guy harmlessly flirted with gals and if he had a female best friend..so what? Let him have his freedom to be a man too. I wanna be able to trust him on that. But if he really cheated on me with any of those girls, then I'd just say bye bye...
U gotta set someone free to know if they really love ya :)
Keshi.
Ahh ...finally ... One girl who support my take on this !
Hey icy learn from ur friend :-P
@varkey: Shuuuud upp... :P
Keshi.... but girls are insecure.... I think I'd blame myself at the end, if u dumped me and went around with his close friend...
I'm just trying to avoid that unpleasant situation..
Mr.Efficient: Anything to add :P
Keshi.... but girls are insecure.... I think I'd blame myself at the end, if u dumped me and went around with his close friend...
Thanks to typo's >:)
Keshi Plz dont dump Icy and go around with my close friend!!
arrrrrrrrgggggg... I MADE A TYPOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO... and Mr.Efficient has made use of it..
Keshi.... but girls are insecure.... I think I'd blame myself at the end, if u dumped me and went around with his close friend...
Let me rephrase that..
Keshi.... but girls are insecure.... I think I'd blame myself at the end, if he dumped me and went around with his close friend...
varkeyyyyy... uuuuuuuuuu
lol I got ya in ur first comment itself Icy...chill :)
And Varkey being a typical guy is teasing u now lol!
oh well Icy, how can u blame urself if he went with his gf? Wouldnt that be HIS fault? After all we cant put fences ard our men...love should be real and natural :):)
Keshi.
And Varkey being a typical guy is teasing u now lol!
Damn Right I am... and I'm Loving it :D
lol Varkey! But Im on Icy's side cos girls stick together :):)
Keshi.
Hi Varkey
Thats why man are from MARS and women VEnus. ITs two different worlds man. -grinz-
Well, a guy flirting with anotha chick would be less threatening than his close female friend
cuz' when it comes to flirting its just temporary, minutes and moments.something that is not held close to the heart and is just for fun. but when it comes to a close friend. we are talking about a bond here. A friendship or relationship. Knowing someone deep could be quite a attraction indeed. and if she is hot, great personality, great dress sense GOSH ITS A BIGGER threat..Plus plus unveilings of insecurity from his gf side. heheX
ma first time here! definite an intresting post! :)
ok Gals from Venus I got the point :(
But is it ok if the guy Still keep the friend but spends more time with his GF?
And what would you feel if your friend stops spending time because he got a GF?
BTW if he really liked the gal so mush he would have fallen for her long before you came along :-P
lol.. oh so v hv a battle in the comments session as well :p
I think gals are more pratical...and they use brains while in a relationship...unlike us, where we know what "close" and "flirting" with another female means...
I think I need to start this survey with ma close friends now ;)
Hehehe...
Thanks for dropping by ma blog.
Greetz!!
hey varkey,
Well i think it would be silly and petty if the girl were to ask him to cut off ties/connection with his close friend.
she needs to give some trust and space i guess..
she needs to give some trust and space i guess..
That is exactly what i'd like to have :)
nice post.. *very impressed*
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